Oedipus Complex

On page 332 of Kheel's essay, she explains that growing boys "must not only disengage from the mother figure, but they must deny all that is female within themselves as well as their ties to the female world". I would counter the idea that this is caused by patriarchy with Freud's Oedipus Complex. As many are aware, the Oedipus Complex explains that young boys have a sexual desire for their mother. However, if the boy continues these desires, a fear develops of the father who has the ability to castrate him and remove his sexuality forever. In my eyes it seems important that this separation is made between a young boy and his mother. Despite what society will do to the boy in the future, removing his sexuality would also remove his identity as a man, and eventually lead to a unisex race. How would that work out? Possibly slippery slope, but that's the only connection I can make right now. If people's identities should be chosen by themselves and not be shaped by the norms of society, specifically those of patriarchal domination that Kheel points out, would it not be important for the young boy to develop an identity of himself as a man. What good would it do for him to grow up and be confused as to why other people are definitely identified as man or woman but he is not? It seems impractical for him to keep his connections to the female world if he is to develop as an individual.